Why You Should Not Assume Things in the Relationship

Assumptions are relationship killers. Not cheating. Not yelling. Not even the ghosting. It’s the assumptions that rot things from the inside.

You assume they know you're upset. You assume they don’t care because they didn’t reply right away. You assume they should just "know" what you need.

Guess what? They don’t. They’re not psychic. And neither are you.

Let me be blunt: if you’re not asking questions and seeking clarity, you’re building a relationship based on fiction, not facts.

So why do we assume?

• Because we’re scared to be vulnerable.

• Because it feels safer to jump to conclusions than face possible disappointment.

• Because we were never taught to ask.

Ask yourself right now: Where in your relationship are you filling in the blanks instead of getting the answers?

Here’s how to fix it:

1. Replace Assumptions with Curiosity Instead of: "They don’t love me," ask: "What makes me feel that way? Have I checked in with them?"

2. Speak Your Needs Clearly Clarity over code. Always.

3. Normalize Asking Instead of Guessing Healthy relationships are built on communication, not mind games.

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Much Love,

Life & Leadership Coach
🎙 Host of the Relationship Rescue Podcast
www.coachvalerymolone.com